Imagine for a moment that you are in the process of paying bills. The mortgage is 33 hours, the car payment is 20 hours, utilities, about 12 hours, groceries for a month about 20 hours, and the the list goes on to include things like insurance, gas, clothing and more. We don’t pay for things with money but with hours of our lives.
I have always been a more of a saver than a spender. Perhaps it is because when I got my first job waiting tables for a dollar and hour in a restaurant where tips were rare it impacted how I looked at purchasing things. I would see a record album or a pair of jeans that I really wanted then I would ask myself if I wanted the album enough to work ten hours for it. Were the jeans really worth 35 hours?
Even after college when my work became salaried I would do the math and average out, as best I could, how much I was earning per hour. It really helps with cutting down on impulse purchases. This mindset led me to completely buy into the time/money ratio and how they work.
We can make more money but we can’t make or buy time. When it’s gone, it’s gone. I can look at my bank accounts and investments on my phone and quickly ballpark my net worth. There is no app to tell me my worth in time. Time is priceless. I may have years or I may only have minutes. I suppose that is why I have little tolerance for people that disrespect me by wasting my time. Do you know any of these people?
The Late One This person doesn’t just arrive late once in awhile they make it a habit. It never occurs to this person that the 15 -30 minutes you spend waiting on them is 15-30 minutes that you could be doing something more productive, entertaining or relaxing than waiting on their self-centered butt. Years ago I had a friend that was so bad about being late that I got in the habit of requesting her arrival 30 minutes before I actually wanted her to arrive. I wouldn’t do that now and would kindly tell her why. I have a limited amount of time in my life and is not okay for people to act as though it is not important or less important than their life/time.
The Non-Committal Planner These are the folks that ignore the RSVP part of an invitation. They might show-up, they might not, but you won’t know ahead of time. More laid back people just roll with this but it is just plain rude.
These people aren’t good at committing even when it is a laid back get together like going to a movie. You call or text several days in advance and extend an invitation. When they respond, which is often 24 hours or more later, they ask if they can get back to you or ask when you need to know. What it sounds like is that they might go with you but they want the flexibility of backing out if they get a more enticing invitation from someone else. There are times when a person legitimately has to wait for more information before deciding, I get it, and it’s okay. Just say when you will let me know and then I can choose to either wait for your response or I can proceed with plans that do not include you.
The Egocentric This person only considers their own needs and believes their time is more special than everyone else’s. I have been volunteering at an assisted living and over time have become friends with several residents. Unfortunately, The Enrichment Coordinator, is a very egocentric person. She would tell me I was on the schedule to lead an event but I would often show up and the residents and other staff had not been informed. When I tried to talk to her about it she at first made light of it then became defensive blaming having a lot going on in her life. I wasn’t volunteering to gain friendship points with her which is good since she never once said thank you. She also never apologized for the times I rushed in from work and skipped dinner to arrive at my designated time. She disrespected me and all the residents that didn’t get the opportunity to participate in activities. It makes me sad, but I have decided that I will drop in and visit with my senior friends during a meal time and explain to them why I will no longer be leading activities.
Benjamin Franklin is credited with having stated, “Time is money”. Yes, but when we really think about it, time is all any of us have and it is quickly slipping away. My advice, don’t waste it on people that aren’t worth it.
Thanks to the following that shared their time and talent through photographs; Aron Visuals, Jon Tyson, Malvestida Magazine and neonbrand.